New parents ruin their friend's adult-only birthday celebration, refusing to get a babysitter then getting upset when parenting a 1-year-old gets in the way of the fun: ‘We missed out on a lot’

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Sep 19, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

The truth hurts, and when new parents forget to prioritize their baby over their friend's birthday activities, someone has to do the hard thing and call it like it is. A woman told her friends after her husband's birthday weekend that their decision to bring along a new baby to a music festival and an adult-only restaurant was the reason the fun went south. Still, the realization that their social life was never going to be the same wasn't something these new parents were ready to accept yet. 

As expected, these parents got pretty defensive, but it was the right thing to do to call it out, lest they all endure a repeat weekend of ruined fun that was never supposed to be family-friendly. 

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  • When a couple becomes parents for the first time, they need to mourn their old life. They're no longer going to the club every weekend and enjoying weird French cinematic movies in the evenings. They've swapped those activities for soccer games, PTA meetings, and Ms. Rachel. While a parent can still enjoy the pleasures of their previous life, their kid takes priority (or at least, they should), so when a group of friends set out to celebrate someone's adult-only birthday, they figured the new parents of the group would get a babysitter. However, instead, they brought their baby as a tag-along and ultimately ruined the weekend. 

  • AITA for telling my friends they kind of put a damper on my husbands birthday weekend by bringing their baby
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  • Last weekend my husband turned 35 we had two things planed Friday a dinner with some friends and Sunday an outdoor festival.
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  • We invited our two friends who have a 1 year old daughter. The restaurant we chose was not kid friendly, it's super small and the main draw is the chef.
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  • There is no set menu and seat are all like a bar around a little kitchen where you can watch him cook and he plates the food for you right there.
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  • The festival is outdoors in the middle of the woods not stroller friendly kids are allowed but it's more or an adult event, they have been there before so it's not a surprise to them.
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  • When we invited them to both days we told them both things were not kid friendly explained the restaurant to them and sent them the website so they could see what it was all about.
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  • We told them understood if they couldn't make it because of the baby. They said they would be at both I assumed his parents who live around the corner were watching the baby.
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  • We made reservations for the restaurant and bought our tickets. Friday night comes and they show up to the restaurant with their daughter.
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  • I didn't include her in the reservation and they did not have any high chairs so she had to sit in her mom's lap the entire time.
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  • She usually gets pretty overwhelmed with the baby to begin with. She was annoyed about the baby sitting in her lap and not being able to enjoy her dinner, annoyed there was no kids menu,
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  • and was just in a bad mood the entire time really put a downer on the entire dinner. Baby cried she had to get up and go outside at one point her husband asked me to go check on her outside.
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  • They kind of left quickly when dinner was over and said we will see you Sunday. Then Sunday comes and again they show up with the baby.
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  • They again are annoyed that it's not stroller friendly. Constantly stopping baby needs to eat baby needs to be changed Baby is crying.
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  • We kept telling them that we would share our location and they could meet up with us after they did whatever they had to do with the baby but they would get all huffy so we ended up staying with them.
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  • We didn't get to do half the things there because we were parked under a tent at the table most of the time.
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  • Parts of the festival they couldn't bring the stroller because once again it was in the woods. At one point I had to hold the baby while she fed her.
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  • Just the entire day was centered around taking care of their baby and it was not fun at all. Once again they have come to this festival with us previous years so they knew what it was all about.
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  • She texted me yesterday saying she had fun over the weekend and she was sorry if the baby ruined everything.
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  • I told her it wasn't ruined but it was a little frustrating because we warned them the activities weren't baby friendly and we missed out on a lot of things, the festival is once a year so it's not like we can go back another time.
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  • She got super defensive and said sorry they are parents now and have more important things to worry about.
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  • We haven't talked since and I feel bad and like everything is super awkward now and I should have kept my mouth shut.
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  • Stock-Cell1556. NTA. They are parents now, but not all events are child- friendly. They should have known better and either declined or gotten a babysitter.
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  • Juucedin⚫ NTA. Your friends were. No need to feel bad about it. No more dinners with them unless they get a sitter.
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